Dear Dr. Tracy, 

I've got a real tough decision to make. I have a friend named Brenda, who

moved away about two years ago. She was just an "activity partner." We

enjoyed each other's company doing outdoor activities together. We had a great

friendship but __61__. About six months ago, she invited me to go to an

island with her to go scuba diving, parasailing, hiking, and mountain biking for a

week. __62__  so I got tickets in advance. 

Since then ... totally __63__ my surprise, I 1net this wonderful girl-Jennifer.

She is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me.  __64__ her for three

weeks. I really need some advice. I don't know if I should cancel this trip with

Brenda or if I should still go. I just don't want Jennifer to think that I'm

interested in some other girl. I would cancel this whole trip for Jennifer because

she __65 __ a lot to me. Please help! 

Just a friend 

Dear Just a Friend,

Even if the woman is just a friend, you should still keep your commitment you 

made to her. Friends are often more important than lovers, __66__ if you've 

just met the new woman. After all, the relationship with Jennifer could be over

in a month and __67__  for a long time. __68__ , it just isn't right to break a

date with someone because someone you like better comes along. Living with 

__69__  means keeping your commitments even if you get a better offer. 

Explain to Jennifer exactly what you're doing. Tell her Brenda is a friend, not a 

lover, and that you are __70__ because you agreed to go and already have the

tickets. If Jenifer has any sense, she'll appreciate that you are a man of principle.